January’s theme is all about New Year – New You as many of us set resolutions for the New Year. Reforming health habits tends to come at the top of the list, and yet every year, they’ve gone down the pan by the 10th January!
Where we go wrong with health habits
Every year, the same health habits come up:
- Stop smoking
- Stop eating junk food
- Go to the gym 3x a week
- Start running
- Eat healthily
- Lose a stone
So what’s the problem with these kind of goals? Well, they’re totally vague and in a lot of cases they belong to someone other than you. By that, I mean that you might not want to start running but you think you should because your sister tells you that you should try it. You might want to lose weight and eat healthily but you actually really hate cooking and prefer the convenience of grabbing lunch while you’re out.
What’s the WHY behind the health habits you’re choosing?
As an example, I decided last February to stop drinking alcohol. I’d done Dry January and felt that my sleep was better, and I was calmer, but it wasn’t quite long enough for me to not crave my next glass of red wine.
I was living a high octane life. Between solo parenting my kids while my husband was posted in Leeds, trying to make our marriage work on the weekends when I also needed to use that time to sleep, and developing Lightbulb Chiropractic, I was exhausted. I was a headless chicken running around trying to stay afloat.
Wine was life.
It started with a glass when the boys went to bed. That became a glass while I was cooking dinner. Before long it turned into a glass when I’d got home from the school run. It got to the point where I was drinking wine to calm my mood and numb the stress. It wasn’t sustainable at all, but I wasn’t ready to quit that behaviour.
Then we went out for dinner on my birthday. We got a bottle of wine, and I ended up drinking all but the single glass my husband had (he was driving). I slept awfully that night, and got up at 5am with the kids. I was tired, hungover and grumpy. I lost it with them because I was in that fight or flight, stressed out physiologic state. That was my why.
I decided that day that I’d take a year off drinking to reset my body, improve my health and sleep, to focus on growing my business, to become a better parent and everything else that goes with it. The health habit came about because I had a strong enough personal reason to change.
Who are you being Vs what are you doing?
It’s important to remember that if you decide to change behaviours without first changing your thoughts behind them, you’ll find it more difficult to follow through. You can’t continue with the mindset that you have always had, because you’ll continue to get what you’ve always got.
Take a piece of paper and have a think about the qualities that you would like to possess. When you’re at your best, what words describe you? That’s the person you want to be. Then you can take a look at the activities that you do when you feel the feelings and act like the person you want to be.
Join the dots and then create your health habits for 2020. It will make things a lot easier to follow through on!
WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?
You’re one adjustment away from a good mood…